Fit Focus: There is nothing wrong with failure

WE are all so hard on ourselves if we are not successful at achieving something straight away. 

We quickly forget how difficult it is to learn something new. 

As babies learning to walk, we all fell down on numerous occasions and we got back up again and tried again and again and again until we mastered it.

The people around us at the time, parents, grandparents, aunts, uncles and siblings all encouraged us they didn’t chastise us or give out to us for being incompetent.

Instead, they held our hand and encouraged us to try again and to keep trying until one day we mastered it and no longer needed their assistance. That is in part because they realised how important the goal of learning to walk was.

If we set a goal for ourselves later in life those close to us may not fully understand why these goals are so important to us and they may not sit comfortably within their value system.

So it is important that we not only express our goals but also our why so that people within our support circle can appreciate how and why this goal is important to you. 

Once they can appreciate and understand this then they may be more willing to support your efforts.

Our support network should be the exact same when we are older as it is when we are young. 

If there is anyone in your close circle who does not encourage you to get back up again when we fall then you should remove them from your circle. 

Failing is a part of every process and we need our support network around us for when we do to help us to get back up.

We also need to learn to not be so hard on ourselves when we do fall; we only fail when we choose not get back up when we fall down. 

We are never beaten until we accept defeat. If we learn the lessons from each failed attempt then it was not a failed attempt but a lesson learnt.

As Rocky Balboa said: “It is about how hard you can get hit and keep moving forward, how much you can take and keep moving forward.” 

The most important thing in life is what you think about yourself, failure is part of every journey. However, if you believe yourself to be a failure then you most definitely will fulfil your believe and be a failure. 

If you perceive yourself as a winner then no matter what happens along the way no matter how many setbacks you are hit with you will perceiver until you are ultimately successful.

Everybody fails at some point; it is through failure that we learn our lessons that carry us to where we want to get to in life. Nobody achieved anything worthwhile without first failing. 

When you fall there are only two choices, stay down and accept defeat or get back up and take the lessons learnt and keep moving forward.

As the great Thomas Edison said: “Our greatest weakness lies in giving up, the most certain way to succeed is always to try one more time.” 

He was responsible for inventing the light bulb that has changed millions and millions of lives but this would not have been possible without many failed attempts along the way.

Each failed attempt along the way was just another lesson to achieving his world-changing invention.

Remember to always keep going one step at a time, the storm will eventually pass and you need to be ready to enjoy the sunshine.